Starting nursery is an important step for the whole family. Some children settle quickly, while others need more time and reassurance. Both responses are completely normal.
Before the first day
Talk positively and simply about nursery. Explain that your child will play, explore and be cared for—and that you will return to collect them.
Sharing information with us helps us understand your child. Tell the nursery team about:
Their usual routine
Favourite activities and interests
Sleep and mealtime habits
Words, gestures or comfort strategies they use
Allergies, medical requirements or additional needs
Any recent changes at home that may affect them
A familiar comfort item may help your child feel connected to home. Please discuss this with the team and make sure the item is clearly named.
Saying goodbye
Separation anxiety is common in young children. Your child may cry or become clingy when you leave, even if they have previously seemed confident.
Try to keep your goodbye warm, calm and predictable. Tell your child that you are leaving, reassure them that you will return and then allow a practitioner to support them. Leaving without saying goodbye can make separation feel less predictable.
It is understandable for parents to feel emotional too. If you are worried after leaving, contact the nursery for reassurance.
Building relationships
Your child’s Key Person will develop a close understanding of their needs, interests and ways of communicating. This relationship helps your child become familiar with nursery routines and gives parents a consistent point of contact.
Settling is not a race
Children settle in different ways and at different speeds. Tiredness, tears or changes in behaviour at home can happen while a child adjusts to a new routine.
We will work with you, share how your child is getting on and adapt our approach where appropriate. If distress remains intense or continues for a prolonged period, speak with the nursery team, your health visitor or GP.